Protecting Children from Cyberbullying

In today’s digital era, cyberbullying is a major issue affecting children and teens. Cyberbullying is the use of digital and internet tools to intimidate, harass, humiliate, mock, and hurt someone. It can take place through social media, text messages, web forums, online apps, and online games. Some examples of cyberbullying include harassing or insulting text messages to someone’s phone, publishing social media posts that make fun of someone or embarrassing photos and videos, spreading rumors or untrue stories on the internet, and leaving hurtful comments and messages on people’s social media accounts. 

Cyberbullying is harmful as posts and messages that are published on the internet or to social media can spread very quickly and cause severe humiliation for the victim. Furthermore, it can be difficult sometimes to identify who is behind the cyberbullying as posts and messages can be created anonymously or through an alias. Cyberbullying can also happen at any time and from anywhere. And just like face-to-face bullying, cyberbullying can affect a child’s academic performance in school, mental and physical health, sleep, diet, self-esteem, and social life. Cyberbullying also increases the risk of substance abuse and suicide. 

Dealing with cyberbullying can be challenging and emotional for families. But there are many ways to protect your child from it. Firstly, it’s important to pay close attention to your child’s behavior and mental health. If you suspect something is troubling them, start a dialogue with them to see what’s going on and encourage them to open up to you. If your child is a victim of cyberbullying, document the activities and be aware of where they’re occurring. By collecting documentation and screenshots, you can report the events and have them removed from the digital platforms. Social media and other types of apps have developed processes for handling cyberbullying and are responsive about removing harmful content. Check the app’s community standards for info on how to report abuse. 

For text messages and harassing phone calls, you can report the phone number to your mobile company and have it blocked so that your child doesn’t receive any further contact. If you can identify a classmate who is behind the cyberbullying, make sure to report the incident to the school as well. For any abuse that persists, you may need to reach out to resources in your community or at your child’s school to assist with the problem.

It’s also important to teach your child how to stay safe online. Social media apps have privacy settings that can be implemented to eliminate contact from bullies and abusive online users. Advise your child to be careful of who they share their contact and online info with and to use security measures to protect their online accounts. 

If your child is a victim of cyberbullying, let them know that you are there for them and will support them to get through it. Cyberbullying can be a frightening experience and it’s helpful for your child to know they’re not alone. Check in on how they’re feeling to properly guide them and boost their self-esteem. If your child needs additional help, there are many mental health resources available. As always, please contact our pediatrician for assistance. 

Safe and Healthy Media Use for Kids

From TV to computers, tablets to smartphones, and other electronic devices, media does not only influence how children think and feel, but it can also affect their health and safety. When used responsibly and safely in moderation, media can provide many benefits for your kids. Quality programs and TV shows can be educational resources and expose children to various aspects of their world, including other cultures and important values. It can also raise awareness of current events and social issues, as well as provide information and ideas to enhance or aid in homework and school projects.

Depending on your child’s age, however, it’s important that they’re exposed to age-appropriate content only. We recommend monitoring the media that they’re consuming and paying attention to parental ratings for TV shows, movies, video games, and apps. For a full list of guidelines for ratings for each of these media forms, here’s a great resource from the American Academy of Pediatrics to read through and bookmark!

Following parental guidance for media is helpful for deciding what content your child absorbs, but think of it as a starting place. It’s still important to be mindful of what your child watches and listens to so that you can decide what’s appropriate for your child and ensure they’re not being exposed to content that is too mature for their age.

It is also beneficial to consume media together so that you can take notice of how your child interacts with the content and how it makes them feel. It will give you the chance to not only bond with your kids, but also take the opportunity to address and have conversations about important issues and values. Your child may even feel more comfortable opening up about their thoughts and feelings that they may not otherwise share. This can spark meaningful dialogues with them as a result.

Another important thing to keep in mind when it comes to media use is being aware of online dangers. There are many types of social media and internet challenges that pose a risk for your kids, as well as online predators who target children and teens. Talk to your kids about using precautions online, including avoiding giving out personal information to people they don’t know. Encourage them to use proper judgment and discuss the consequences of participating in harmful challenges.

In addition to monitoring content and online safety, it’s also essential that your child’s media consumption is a healthy amount. Spending too much time with screen devices can negatively impact your child’s health. Media should not take your kids away from participating in physical activities or having social interactions. When used in excess, your child can develop a higher risk of obesity and delays in learning and social skills. It can also lead to screen addiction and become a distraction while doing homework, affecting their school performance as a result.

To avoid this, set limitations on how much time your child can spend with electronic devices and communicate these boundaries to your kids. Also, discourage your child from using screens an hour before bed, as the light from screens can be stimulating and lead to poor sleep.

Keep in mind that the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends avoiding media use for children under 18 months and limiting use to one hour for kids between two and five.

If you’re looking for a place to start for setting media boundaries, we recommend using the Family Media Plan from the AAP.