Depression and anxiety have been on the rise in children and teens. Kids are facing all types of stressors that are impacting their mental health. Social media, upsetting news, peer pressures, academic pressures, and social exclusion are some of the things that can exacerbate mental health challenges. Fortunately, however, parents and families can provide their children with mental health and emotional development tools to build resilience and learn healthy ways to cope and thrive in tough situations. Below are 4 building blocks to support your family’s mental health.
Supportive and Stable Relationships at Home
Every child benefits from strong, stable, and healthy relationships at home. It’s important that kids feel secure and connected with a caring adult and that their home environment is a safe space for them. One way to help children experience stability and connection is to create structured routines. This can include establishing regular mealtimes for eating together, setting specific times for kids to work on their homework, involving children in regular chores to instill a sense of responsibility and belonging, and creating a bedtime ritual. Structured routines can help kids feel more in control of their lives, reduce stress through predictability, and ensure that they’re maintaining their physical health by eating and sleeping well. It’s also beneficial to carve out time for kids to play, relax, or engage in fun activities that give them joy. We recommend dedicating some time to family activities like game nights.
Another tip to keep in mind is to use positive discipline strategies to teach kids how to manage their behavior. Set limits and consequences for harmful behaviors, and make sure to model the behavior you expect of your kids. Additionally, you’ll want to recognize positive behaviors to encourage your kids to continue them.
Creating Space for Open Communication
When kids feel anxious or depressed, having a space to express their thoughts and feelings to a trusted adult can make a huge difference. To encourage open dialogue, practice active listening, and foster a supportive, non-judgmental environment so that your child feels comfortable sharing what’s on their mind or what they’re dealing with. It’s helpful to ask open-ended questions instead of yes-or-no ones to better understand your child’s struggles.
Teaching Kids How to Understand and Manage Emotions
Learning how to understand and manage emotions can prevent children from feeling overwhelmed, and you can help your child with the process. Start by acknowledging, naming, and validating their emotion without excusing inappropriate behavior. For example, if your child is lashing out at home, you can say something like, “I see that you’re feeling angry right now. I understand that you’re frustrated, and that’s ok, even though your behavior is not.” From there, you can share healthier ways for them to cope and techniques for calming down, such as deep breaths, muscle relaxation, and visualization, i.e., imagining they’re relaxing on a beach.
Helping Kids Connect with Peers and Their Community
Having a strong support system, including trusted friends, and being involved in a community is valuable to a child’s mental health and emotional development. Kids will feel connected to others and that they have a purpose. Starting at a young age, schedule playdates for your toddler so that they can start learning how to form friendships. For older kids, encourage them to invite their friends over or schedule times to meet up with them. Volunteering and participating in extracurricular activities like sports or school clubs help children develop empathy and respect for others. It also improves their self-esteem and confidence and can prevent suicidal thoughts.
Although more kids today are experiencing mental health issues, these emotional development building blocks can help children overcome their challenges and develop resilience. In some cases, however, children may need additional support. If your child is struggling with depression or anxiety, call our office to speak with our pediatrician.